Simple as it is – resulting from the lack of healthy diet last week:
5TH WEEK CHALLENGE:
DON’T TOUCH CRAP FOOD!
I feel I need to work on my discipline again. As mentioned before one good habit triggers another one and I never feel better and more content with myself if I pay attention to living a healthy life at least in some parts – like choosing what I put in my mouth. I’m not saying I will quit smoking and stop drinking all at once – but I can start with eating healthy. Not a diet – diets are bad and not possible to sustain – but I can make sure I don’t touch sugar, bad carbs and fat, exercise and drink a lot of water and herbal tea throughout the day. Expected results? – feeling better with myself the coming Monday morning versus how I felt today.
There was no challenge set up. I got sick, ended up being caught up with work and business travel and the outcome of it is a slight feeling of lack of accomplishment – I just really don’t know what happened with my last 7 days – they went by so fast.
However, I also came across a great book in the meantime ‘The power of habit. Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business” by Charles Duhigg. According to the research done about 40% of what we do on a daily basis is not a result of conscious decisions but results from habits. Some of them are good, some of them are bad and some are nearly destructive. I’m half way through the book so far and even though I didn’t set up a proper challenge for myself for last week the book at least inspired me to think of new ways to adjust my daily routines – and improve little things in my life – one by one.
One good change normally triggers another but it also works the other way round if we want it or not. I noticed that with myself – being on the move, in business meetings, on the planes and trains almost the full week – I started to eat very unhealthy. Normally I don’t touch bread – god forbid - white toast bread – but as I was constantly in a rush and it was easy to justify to myself that all those are temporary solutions – I ended up reaching for junk food without any shame day after day, meal after meal. Results are easily seen when I step on the scale:/ Not fun – but it was quite a learning again. I found a funny quote once online:
It seems like I lived my last week under this exact motto. Results are not too thrilling and I need to work double hard to reverse what I ruined.
I’m writing in retrospect as I had no time or chance to post the challenge before the beginning of the 4th week being on holidays and travelling from a place to place. The funnies thing is that I decided that my week on holidays will be the best time to challenge myself to live in the now – but without expecting that I will get a full on experience of it being dropped on me – due to unexpected circumstances about which in a second…The idea of live in the now comes from the book of “The power of now” by Eckhart Tolle – the idea of finding full joy in life by enjoying the present moment and every bit and part of it to the fullest, without waiting for the next thing to happen, dwelling on the past experiences or the the expectations of how things should be.
4TH WEEK CHALLENGE:
DON’T THINK ABOUT THE PAST, DON’T OVER-PLAN THE FUTURE. LIVE IN THE NOW.
My phone broke completely while I was spending a weekend with a friend in Budapest and as a result I was looking ahead at a full week of travelling through the east cost of Italy without much connection with online world… I had no chance to message my friends back home and tell them what I’m doing, I could not take pictures of where I was and what I saw… If I wanted to plan my next step or meet someone I needed to write things down in a notebook and just hope that the people I wanted to meet – will meet me at the arranged time and place before I left to my next destination… If things didn’t happen as planned – I needed to improvise on the spot and find alternative ways to move on… As I was travelling part of the time all by myself – it was quite a challenge… and it hurt a bit at the begging as what’s the point of seeing the Pisa Tower if I can’t take a picture of myself with it or update my Facebook status?!
I have to say though that after the addiction to my phone wear off a bit – I started to have the most fulfilling time with myself and just enjoyed the experience of seeing new things and new places really being in the NOW. For once I forgot about work completely – not being able to look into work e-mails and worry ahead of time about things awaiting me when I’m back. I indeed missed a few opportunities for meeting some people due to lack of connection and ended up hitchhiking randomly as I could not call a cab but overall – it was a winning experience and since that week – I feel I’m less dependent on my phone, social media and telling people about my life all the time.
I highly recommend the lack of phone rehab to everyone!
Long time no posts – I know – but I’ve been on the move for over two weeks now – with quite big part of the trip involving no access to any technology…
Challenge # 3 was an obvious… FAIL.
Seriously – it started well – when I restrained from sending spiteful messages back on whatsapp while talking to friends and being able to replace them with some nice comments or no comment at all… But when it came to real life conversations – it went just terrible a few times. Just to give an example - I kept mocking my flatmate who had a twisted ankle and words about how cool it is to run outside in the sunny weather were just jumping out of my mouth before I could think while he was trying to climb the stairs to his bedroom… terrible, terrible, terrible… I needed to start laughing at loud at myself as I couldn’t believe myself… Like the theory of an elephant – when you try to not to think about elephants and the only thing you see in your mind are elephants… Same with me – the more I tried to be just nice – the more sarcastic I was… At least this exercise made me realize how often I use sarcasm as a riposte and that it’s actually not that necessary to make my relationships work…
This challenge will need to be repeated – with more willpower put behind. Wait for a come back. I don’t give up easily on the way to be a nicer human being:D
Having a sense of humor is core to an interesting personality. Smart sense of humor is even better. However, what if your sense of humor sometimes goes too far? It happens to all of us that we say something we thought would be hilarious and it just comes out completely the wrong way. I think my sense of humor in particular is sometimes definitely too sarcastic – which can be dangerous – as not everyone has a great ear to sarcasm. My close friends are used to it and I hope they find it funny most of the time – but some people who know me less – do they find it as funny as I do? I sometimes doubt it. People might get actually slightly offended without showing it. They laugh, but what if it’s mainly because that’s the best way to get out of a situation that is not fully comfortable to them. I hope it doesn’t happen too often but at least from time to time I’m afraid people think I’m too direct. Time to work on that.
3RD WEEK CHALLENGE:
INSTEAD OF MAKING A SARCASTIC COMMENT – BE FUNNY IN A NICE WAY OR SHUT UP
I don’t want people to think I’m mean. While I find a bit spiteful, sarcastic sense of humor really refreshing in others – the truth is – you have to be very careful to whom you address your comments and jokes. I sometimes try to reverse the situation and imagine someone said the same thing to me – as A JOKE – and I’m not really laughing at loud. In order to practice being a nicer person, with a more sensible sense of humor – I will try to say something nice every time I’m about to throw a sarcastic comment at someone. Let’s see if it has any effect on my regular encounters with people.
Sense of accomplishment – that’s the main feeling I recognize in myself after the 2nd week challenge is behind me. Not bad, right?
I was very good in doing what I promised myself to do every day and as a result it turned out to be a very productive week! Among other things I went to do sport 5 times over last 7 days as promised and I even motivated myself to do different types of exercises this time: running, gym, volleyball, Zumba class, roller skating…
I went jogging already today as well and I have to say I feel strangely in shape :D Seems like those things pay off more quickly than I thought!